Day 4/5 – Trigger Sequence & Failures

By sajames / 25/11/2019

Two challenges covered today as it was Sunday yesterday and I try to avoid any internet activity. I hope you all managed to attend Mass and confession – the sacraments are the biggest weapon we have to avoid sin. I also warn you all to watch out for Monday temptations – we know how dangerous this can be for the rest of the week if you fall.

My Conclusion:

Lesson 4 is probably the most difficult to get right. I talk about triggers constantly in the Self Help units. Of all the challenges it is key that you get this one done properly. It is hard because you have to be honest with yourself and admit what excites you. Understanding what ‘moment’ or ‘thought’ turns you to pornography is essential if you are to learn how to avoid or combat it.

Think about what pornography you view (carefully!). It is rare for someone to just pick a random site…we all quickly develop ‘interests’. We can only have success if we are totally honest about this question.

Challenge Day 5 is all about our failures and is a very comprehensive lesson. It is worth knowing some of the reasons you fail and being able to discuss openly during future chat sessions.

Hopefully you are managing to complete these challenges and the purity novena.

I am more than happy to arrange a chatroom session to delve into more detail on a 1:1 basis…

Yours in Jesus, Mary & Joseph

SA James

2 thoughts on “Day 4/5 – Trigger Sequence & Failures”

Vianney
25/11/2019 at 6:04 pm

I fell yesterday evening after Mass!! I know I should have tried to make contact but I couldn’t help myself. I can’t get to confession for another week and I am scared I will just give up…like I always do. Can I still do this challenge or do I have to start again?

It wasn’t looking at porn that caused the fall – but I can’t talk about it here. I’m only replying again because I notice my last comment didn’t show my email address – so I feel more confident that I can remain anon. (thanks MOH)

I have looked at this challenge and I can definitely agree that if I can find a way to interrupt the activation sequence then I might give myself a fighting chance. It always ends up with porn but there are a lot of sins I consent to before I give in and succumb to the internet stuff.

I will try and make contact for a cryptchat 1:1??
sajames
28/11/2019 at 4:43 pm

Falling into sin does not mean you stop the challenge. It just shows you have had a ‘bad day’. Tomorrow is another day – which does not have to be bad. This challenge is well designed by Covenant Eyes and is as much about providing information than giving quick unrealistic solutions.

I am more than happy to make time for you but please ensure you have made contact with a priest who is happy for you to join the Fellowship. You must be over 18.

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